What is headship? The term elicits unpleasant images of wives being told to submit to nonsensical husbands. It evokes visions of husbands being granted a license to abuse wives and scar children with the hot iron of unreasonableness. … -Ed Silivoso- Women: God’s Secret Weapon pg 114 par 6
There are so many men out there that believe in a “headship” as they are the controller of the house, the wife, the kids… And yes… there’s a right context of what it’s supposed to be… but in this world it’s not used rightly. I know a lot of people who have grown up or escaped livelyhoods of a man who was abusive and thought he had to control everything. It’s horrible to hear about the things that women and children deal with when it comes to men like this! All I can say is that I am so thankful of the father that God gave me!
“Headship” does not appear in the Bible. It is, however, a doctrine drawn from several passages. The roots go back to the order of creation. Adam was created first, and with that came certain priveleges and responsibilities… Ed Silivoso- Women: God’s Secret Weapon pg 115 par. 1
In 1st Cor. 11- Paul holds an extensive discussion on male/female roles and positions…
“But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man [husband], and the man is the head of a woman [wife], and God is the head of Christ.” 1st Cor. 11:3
It seems that women are held in an inferior postion. Is that what Paul was really saying??
Before we jump to any conclusions, let us back up a moment and apply the same logic to the statement, “and God is the head of Christ.” If we are thinking about a hierarchy, we run into a serious theological problem. God the Father is not superior to Christ the Son, nor does the Son rank higher that the Spirit. We know that there are no heirarchies inside the Trinity. – The Greek word for “head” is kephale, which can mean either ruler/leader or source/origin. -Ed Silivoso-Women: God’s Secret Weapon pg 116 par 1-3
So we see that when it comes to the passage… instead of saying head… we can place the word soucre… God was the source of Christ… but Christ was also God! So, if we look back to ceration… we can see that Eve was a source of Adam… God made Eve from Adam… who was the leader and the source.
To emphasize the absolute interdependence between men and women, Paul brought it back to the issue or origins when he said, “For as the woman originates from the man, so also the man has his birth through the woman; and all things originate from God.” 1st Cor 11:12 There is no room for male superiority here, since men and women cannot exist without each other. -Ed Silivoso-Women: God’s Secret Weapon pf 115 par 5
Wow… Men and women cannot exist without each other… that is a powerful statement! Especially in this day and time. There are so many things in this world that are coming against Men and Women existing together! God made man and from him he made a woman and through a woman comes a man… there’s a never ending cycle. This absolutely places man under woman. Women are the ones that stay home and raise the children. They raise little boys to be a man, in order for that to happen, the woman has to be “head” of the man. So when it comes to “headship” we can see that man created it… not God!
Adam was created first and given the role as the “protector” and Eve was created second because man alone wasn’t good. And when God created Eve, he gave them the means to rule together, as one. She ruled alongside her husband. Gen 2:18.
Man and woman were placed on this earth to rule together. They complete each other in so many ways. And it’s been a huge deal for Satan to break up the means of marriage, sexuality, and unity. Satan has come to this earth to steal, kill, and destroy all that God has intended for His righteousness. God meant for man and woman to be together in marriage, in holy matrimony. But Satan has placed division and “headship” b/w men and women, and is corrupting this world using “good.” If men and women could understand the value of needing each other and helping each other fulfill their places here on earth instead of making it about “headship;” then God could have already come back and restored everything to it’s former glory before the fall! We have to be in unity, all crying out to God! Come Lord Jesus Come! Man and Woman together, ruling and reigning the earth the way that God intened it to be when He created Adam and Eve!